“Weren’t you THAT guy/girl”
The person who dates
The person who drinks and smokes
The person with the tight clothes and booty shorts
The person with the attitude
The person that doesn't listen to her parents
The person that curses
The person that no one wants to be
"THAT PERSON"
...but you know something that we always forget is that this person could change.
This girl could have the aspirations of being the next Khadija, Fatimah, Asiya, and Aisha.
What is set today may not be set tomorrow,
Although you may think you are so far down, you can always get back up.
There is always hope, especially with the will of Allah.
Anyone can change
1. ANYONE CAN CHANGE, YOURE NEVER TOO FAR GONE TO CHANGE.
· Allah’s mercy is unlimited, there is no limit. Imagine if you stole some money from someone, they will always remember that and it will affect your relationship. But Allah is willing to forgive us, over and over, with a clean slate. You can be the proclaimed “worst person on this earth” and Allah will forgive you. Allah does not shut his mercy on any one, we are the ones that shut Allah out. Look at the children of Israel, they killed the prophets yet Allah kept sending them more. They were saved from Pharaoh, disbelieved, and Allah still sent his mercy. Allah is MOST GRACIOUS, MOST MERCIFUL.
"Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." [39:53]
"O son of Adam, as long as you call upon Me and put your hope in Me, I have forgiven you for what you have done and I do not mind. O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky and then you would seek My forgiveness, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, if you were to come to Me with sins that are close to filling the earth and then you would meet Me without ascribing any partners with Me, I would certainly bring to you forgiveness close to filling it." [Hadith Qudsi]
· Elements of change:
o The time to change is now, we are not guaranteed a second of your life.
§ There was a man who kept promising that he would become a good Muslim and start obeying Allah when he got older. That he would be a pious Muslim, read Quran, and do everything that he should be doing at that point of his life. BUT WHO guaranteed that he would live the next day? No one know the land or time they will die in.
§ “…And no soul perceives what it will earn tomorrow, and no soul perceives in what land it will die. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.” 31:34
o Ramadan is the best time
§ Ramadan is the best to change, alhumduiallah with shaitan being locked up and with Allah’s mercy being ever so great, All focus is on you (:
2. HOW TO CHANGE
· Acceptance for the need of change,
o Knowing that you need to change, knowing that you have a problem is the beginning to change. When someone goes to rehab, it is because they have identified that they have a problem, people do not go to rehab to find out they have a problem, they go to fix their problem; and we have all seen people that are forced to go to rehab, the problem never gets fixed. We must realize that we need to change in order to change.
· Niyah and Dua
o The prophet said, “Actions are only by intention, and every man shall only have what he intended.”
o Dua is the weapon of the believer and with the help of Allah, anything is possible.
· Make the environment for change
o While we are fasting we do not sit at McDonalds or Burger King all day, right? Because it is not the environment for a fasting person. So if you are trying to decrease your use of curse words, why would you hang around people who cuss all the time? If you are trying to fix your relationship with your parents, why would you chill at your friend’s house when you know that they scream at their parent 24/7? Is that an environment that will help you change? Your environment has a huge impact on how effective your change will be.
· Make the intuitive
o Write it down, make chart of all the things you want to change and your goals, inshallah. If they are in a place where you can see them almost every day, you are more likely to complete them.
o Look at this study: http://sidsavara.com/personal-productivity/why-3-of-harvard-mbas-make-ten-times-as-much-as-the-other-97-combined
· Things to watch out for when you want to change:
o Stay humble.
o Everything is for the sake of Allah
o Say, "Indeed, my prayer, my rites of sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allah, Lord of the worlds.” -6:162
o Try not to turn things from your past that were halal, haram.
o Do not delete everyone from your life just because they are from your past; maybe you can reduce your time with them, and maybe your change will influence them to change. Again, you never know the state of a believer.
o Accumulating a little bit of knowledge does not mean you are not capable of handing out fatwas and throwing at people what is haram and what is halal,and even worse, condemning them to hell. If you are doing something everyone KNOWS is wrong like drinking, it is our obligation to give them advice, but remember advice if not making them feel dumb.
o In the Quran it says: “And they did not become divided until after knowledge had come to them - out of jealous animosity between themselves. And if not for a word that preceded from your Lord [postponing the penalty] until a specified time, it would have been concluded between them. And indeed, those who were granted inheritance of the Scripture after them are, concerning it, in disquieting doubt.” 42:14
3. REACTIONS TO CHANGE
· Problems with our reactions
o The sincerity of someone’s change is always questioned.
§ Your sincerity of change is only with Allah, NO ONE ON THIS EARTH has a right to judge if this person is being real or fake, no one. Only Allah knows what is in your heart BUT most don’t take heed of this; when people start to change, all of a sudden people start questioning their sincerity and talking about them even more, who does she think she is? This is the primary question. If you don’t even know the state of yourself, how are you going
o All you can remember is what they used to be
§ When someone changes, people become fixated on who that person used to be. They cannot see how a party girl now wears the hijab or how a guy who smoked every night, now spends many nights at the masjid.
· Solutions to our reactions
o Truly, we do not know the state of ourselves so how can we try and judge the state of others; It is easier said than done but we have to worry about ourselves, you are accountable for your own deeds on the day of judgment. On the day of Judgment, Allah is not going to ask you what that person or this person did, Allah is going to ask what you did?
o Because this whole thing is rooted off of people trying to do Allah’s job and believing that they have a say-so, we think we are in charge but every day, who do we submit to? Who is in charge? Allah and Allah only.
o Also, if you are hard on people, Allah will be hard on you. We need to show people our mercy, so that Allah will show his mercy on us, inshallah.
Thank you very much for reading, anything good is from Allah
Jazak to the max!
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