I know we have all had those moments where we are soo angry we just want to "ahhhhh"
and some of us do, but there is a prescribed way to handle this anger. It is very hard to do, but will make you and the others around you feel better, inshalla :) :) Here are a five things you can do when you get extremely angry:
1. Seek refuge with Allah (this should be your first action in whatever you do)
Sulayman bin Sard narrated:
“I was sitting with the Prophet, when two men began slandering one another. One of them was red in the face, and the veins on his neck were standing out. The Prophet (s) said: “I know a word which, if he were to say it, what he feels would go away. If he said: “I seek refuge with Allah from the Devil,” what he feels would go away.’”
['Fath al-Bari'; 6/337]
The Messenger of Allah (s) said:
“If a man gets angry and says: “I seek refuge with Allah,” his anger will go away.”
2. Don't talk or remain silent
*this really helps because when you are mad, and then start to talk about why you are mad, it makes you even madder (speaking from experience)
The Messenger of Allah (s) said:
“If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.”
3. Sit down or lie down
“The Messenger of Allah (s) said: “If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so that his anger will go away. If iit does not go away, let him lie down.”“”
[Reported in the 'Musnad' of Ahmad (5/152) and 'Sahih al-Jami' (694)]
al-Imam al-Khattabi said: “One who is standing is in a position to strike and destroy, while the one who is sitting is less likely to do that, and the one who is lying down can do neither. It is possible that the Prophet told the angry person to sit down or lie down so that he would not do something that he would later regret, and Allah Knows best.”
['Ma'alim as-Sunan'; 5/141]
4. Make wudu
This purifying act will relieve some anger. The cool water hitting your face and saying "bismiallah" will have an affect on your mood. :)
5. Remember the blessings for those who can control themselves
The Messenger of Allah said:
“The strong man is not the one who can overpower others. Rather, the strong man is the one who controls himself when he gets angry.”
[Reported in the 'Musnad' of Ahmad; 2/236, and it is authentic]
The Messenger of Allah also said:
“The strongest man is the one who, when he gets angry and his face reddens and his hackles rise, is able to defeat his anger.”
['Sahih al-Jami'; # 3859]
Here is one the helps me out: GET AWAY FROM WHATEVER IS MAKING YOU ANGRY! :) :)
here are a few links to sites speaking of anger and how to control it:
WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT TO YOU:
Anger is an evil thing and can make you do horrible things that you would never have even thought about if you were not in that state of complete rage. That's why in order to sustain good character, you must be able to control this feeling.
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